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the rubber band theory. March 25, 2010

this is not something new. everyone has gone through the era of understanding the law of physics. this usually happens somewhere between the ages of 13-18 and for some even longer than that. we learn about its theories, we experimented how much it existed in our lives and we accepted how physics will affect our surroundings and environment, which of course will in turn, affect us – directly and indirectly.

when i was in school, i am not a huge fan of physics. perhaps it is due to the simple fact that my mathematical ability is just so-so and i can never understand why we had to calculate and experiment something that i cannot see or feel. i mean, how can i feel energy or acceleration … yawn.

chemistry was fun because the experiments always caused my teacher to have panic attacks – no thanks to the fact that a few of us girls are overly-interested in mixing stuff, despite being told not to. biology was educational except for the part i had to draw diagrams. hello? i cannot even draw a straight line with a ruler, what more the entire female/male reproduction system.

so, i survived through school and attained reasonable grades for science subjects, without being convinced that a combination of these three sciences will help me in any way, in my pursuit of happiness. until now. or to be specific, until i discovered how the rubber band theory is so much a part of our lives.

rubber bands are simple and uncomplicated product. why was it invented? i have no solid answer for that but i have loads of funny possible reasons why, going through my head .. hahaha! some cannot be shared it is amazing how this simple product became a part of our daily lives – at work, at home, in the car, at the grocer’s, in school, at the mall, etc .. they are everywhere. simple idiot-proof usage for many uses. we just need to get creative.

have you ever spent five whole minutes with one piece of rubber band in your hands? Nine out of ten people will probably think its an amazing/useful product that they did not think of inventing themselves in the first minute, then they try to explore and experiment with it on their fingers/hair/toes in the second minute, then they get someone close to join them in the experiment and having two persons holding one rubber band leads to more possibilities of fun in the third minute, then in the fourth minute the novelty of it started to wear off and somehow that piece of band starts to inflict pain/hurt in some way .. and in the fifth minute, without realising it, that piece of thing that amuses us became the very thing that pisses us off.

….. does that sound exactly like … falling in love? *grins*

over the past years of going through love challenges myself, plus hearing and seeing what is happening around me, i have always shared with those around me “not to rubber band themselves” when dealing with sticky issues in their relationships. they will usually give me that confused look or that longer-than-usual uncomfortable silence, followed by “huh?” (haha, priceless expression). so this is usually what comes out from my mouth …

” … love is like rubber band. it is simple and uncomplicated, until we pick it up. then we think if others can make it useful for them, why not for us right? so we start playing with it, and realize quickly how much potential this thing have. then we decide that its probably more fun if someone else is holding to it too! can expand more, has more potential and all that creative possibilities! so one rubber band with two hands … all fun at first. until someone decides to let go, or to walk the other direction. or until both gets entangled in rubber band mess. either way, trust me, that piece of rubber band will turn into the most lethal weapon mankind will ever know. it will end up hurting both parties since both are all tangled up, or it gets worse when someone lets go suddenly because it snaps back to our faces or theirs. so learn to let go when it is time to let go. do not rubber-band ourselves and let it snap in our faces. we picked it up, so learn to put it down. and we must learn and accept that when we let the rubber band come into our life, we have to be responsible for it together and make decisions together at the same time. its just plain selfish to let that rubber band go, knowing the impact of it on the other party. and do not ever try to overstretch it. the result is often something bad. do not hang on to it just for the sake of it. let it down now, and pick it up again when you are ready to …”

yup, so this is what i call “the rubber band theory” =)